Tuesday 17 February 2015
Who is a Male ?
Thursday 5 February 2015
In our life we will have some fun.
In our life we will have some fun.
I do not unusual
I was not very happy when I do not know anything.
Time I was not so troubled that I fell ill.
Live to enjoy the present.
I do not unusual
I was not very happy when I do not know anything.
Time I was not so troubled that I fell ill.
Live to enjoy the present.
Saturday 31 January 2015
Just 10 minutes before bed OK?
Some questions for you to ponder....
Are you 'self aware'?
Do you acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses?
Do you know when people are showing you the mirror of your soul?
Can you distinguish between what is 'your stuff' and what is not?
Do you have objectivity about yourself?
Do you love your mind?
Do you have a sense of your own uniqueness?
Do you learn easily?
Can you concentrate?
Are you open to new ideas?
Are you an independent thinker?
Do you allow the laughter to bubble to the surface?
Do you really know how to be lighthearted and fun loving?
Do you often fell tight or restricted in the stomach area?
Are you nervous and fluttery...butterflies in the tummy sort of feeling?
Are you 'self aware'?
Do you acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses?
Do you know when people are showing you the mirror of your soul?
Can you distinguish between what is 'your stuff' and what is not?
Do you have objectivity about yourself?
Do you love your mind?
Do you have a sense of your own uniqueness?
Do you learn easily?
Can you concentrate?
Are you open to new ideas?
Are you an independent thinker?
Do you allow the laughter to bubble to the surface?
Do you really know how to be lighthearted and fun loving?
Do you often fell tight or restricted in the stomach area?
Are you nervous and fluttery...butterflies in the tummy sort of feeling?
Fill vibrant colors into your life
Colors are all around us. Buildings are painted with colors. Clothes are made in different colors. The sky changes its color depending on the weather. We see colors everyday and everywhere. Colors have become part of our life.
Colors are an interesting element. Colorful things always manage to capture one’s attention. I love browsing through colorful pictures taken by fellow demographers. Those colorful pictures never fail to attract me. I have taken some pictures with color negative films and color slide films too.
Blue is often associated with sadness in the English language. But for me, I relate blue with calmness and peacefulness. I like to look at the sky and the sea. So, most of my blue photos are about them.
Green is sometimes related to envy or jealousy. I prefer to relate green with nature,and its fresh, new beginnings. Leaves that grow out right after winter are fresh and represent new beginnings. Greenery in nature always make people feel refreshed.
Some people see red as a representation of danger and anger. Some people relate red to passion. For the Chinese, red is a color of good fortune and happiness.
Yellow is a bright color. For me, yellow represents joyfulness and cheerfulness. Most of the time, smiley faces that make people smile are in yellow color, aren’t they?
Pain is a pesky part of being human
Pain is a pesky part of being human ,
I've learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here.
Pain is a sudden hurt that can't be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing .
Pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air!
We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces .
Friday 30 January 2015
Those loving whispers, a heartfelt kiss,
Perfect Moments
By Stormy Angel and Rusty Rimes
(She Say's)
Those loving whispers,
a heartfelt kiss,
the beautiful feelings,
of heavenly bliss.
Lingering stardust,
morning comes anew,
eyes met eyes,
reveling what’s true.
Light gentle touches,
hearts beat as one,
fires ignite the soul,
as moon meets sun.
Our perfect mornings,
content as can be,
entwined together,
you and me.
(He Say's)
Entwined together,
forever more,
you and I,
by the ocean's great shore.
(She Say's)
Where hand in hand,
our love truly bloom'd,
my heart in yours,
forever consumed.
(He Say's)
Let no sun set,
till the end of time,
upon this love
of yours, and mine <3
I Love My Sister..
happen….
Honesty is the best and the most expensive gift you can give to someone.
It brings trust. It makes you trustworthy, which is priceless.
Remember, trust cannot be purchased, learned or acquired.
It has to be earned.
Trust based on Honesty is the foundation of strong and bonding relationships.
Lead a Honest & Happy Life.
Because If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything
If You Want To Be TRUSTED, Be HONEST.
If You Want To Be HONEST , Be TRUE.
If You Want To Be TRUE , BE YOURSELF…..
The best things in Life are free.
Hugs
Hug the shore; let others try the deep.
If you hug to yourself any resentment against anybody else, you destroy the bridge by which God would come to you.
there is more power in a good strong hug than in a thousand meaningful words.
smiles
A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.
The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection.
Remember even though the outside world might be raining, if you keep on smiling the sun will soon show its face and smile back at you.
friends
A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”
family
It’s important to love your family, whether it’s your mom, dad, grandparents or siblings.
what about the love we have for our family members? It may be a different kind of love, but it’s just as strong and just as important.
Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones you accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you you no matter what.
Love
Life without Love is like a harp without strings
People will always give you advice, it is you who should decide either to try them or live with them.
You just need a loving heart and inside your loving heart you are never poor.
You can't make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.
sleep
Early to bed, early to rise, keeps a man healthy, wealthy and wise.
I love to sleep. Do you? Isn’t it great? It really is the best of both worlds. You get to be alive and unconscious.
Sleeping helps you forget the problems for a while.
Good days end up with good sleep and good dreams.
Good memories
Life is only as good as the memories we make…only they’re gone faster than the smell after it rains.
Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.
The real moment has disappeared but you will always have the memories to remind you.
You will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Make the most of the moment cos you never know what you have until it’s gone.
Laughter
Laughter heals all wounds, and that's one thing that everybody shares. No matter what you're going through, it makes you forget about your problems. I think the world should keep laughing.
Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward.
The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.
If You are Depressed.
That are part of the same ... !!
Because they own the best
The power to intelligently
Are .. !!
How is your' feeling today?
A few questions...
Do you love being a part of a larger community?
Do you get involved socially?
Do you feel like you belong?
Are you able to work co-cooperatively in a team?
Are you socially intelligent?
Do you lend a hand when needed?
Can you respect other peoples choices?
Do you believe there is enough for everyone?
Do you use your creativity often?
Do you allow your creativity to flow?
Are you generous?
Can people rely on you?
Can you show your affection easily?
Do you treat everyone as a star?
Is your staff/ family happy?
and most important of all...
Are YOU happy?
Life is not Measured by the Number of Breaths
We have taller buildings but shorter tempers,
Wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more, but have less,
We buy more, but enjoy less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families,
We have more conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees but less sense,
more knowledge, but less judgment,
more experts, yet more problems,
more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly,
laugh too little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired,
read too little,
watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life.
We’ve added years to life not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back,
but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.
We conquered outer space but not inner space.
We’ve done larger things, but not better things.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.
We write more, but learn less.
We plan more, but accomplish less.
We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.
We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of
fast foods and slow digestion,
big men and small character,
steep profits and shallow relationships.
These are the days of
two incomes but more divorce,
fancier houses, but broken homes.
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.
It is a time when there is much in the showroom window
and nothing in the stockroom.
A time when technology can bring this letter to you,
and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just
hit delete…
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones,
because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe,
because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.
Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones,
but most of all mean it !!
A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment
for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak!
And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away.”
Thursday 29 January 2015
Life is like a book
Life is like a book, with chapters for each event in your life and a limited number of pages on which to spend your time. But I prefer to think that is a book is like life, particularly a good one, which is worth staying up all night to finish.
A book, you'll never know what chapter two is all about because all you keep doing is re-reading chapter one.
Some chapters are SAD, some HAPPY and some are EXCITING. But, if you never turn the page, you will never know what the next chapter holds.
Each day is a new page. May your book be a bestseller with adventures to tell, lessons to learn and tales of good deeds to remember.
Life is too DEEP
So don’t try to describe it,
just LIVE it.
Nothing in life is to be answered.
It is only *TO BE* ~UNDERSTOOD~
We can always lose ‘something’ for ‘someone’ but we should not lose ‘someone’ for ‘something’ because life can return ‘something’ but not‘someone’
Life is more enjoyable when you focus your attention on helping others than reflecting on your own problems.
The Three C's of successful relationship
that includes verbal and non-verbal communication. It's the single most important aspect that can make or break a relationship. It includes caring enough to listen to underlying, unspoken messages being interested enough in each others daily activities , being clear when conveying your innermost needs. Good communication also means knowing how to prevent disagreement from escalating into argument and if they do , knowing how to forgive and move on afterward.
At nonverbal levels, communication means a look, a hug, a touch of hand, for no reason. You know that song "you say it best when you say nothing at all ? It does NOT mean if you sulk i should be able to read your mind.
Compromise
whatever you call it give & take, split the difference, meet halfway.. It stops you going into battle for the wrong reason such as the color of the curtains.
Compromise is what i call diplomatic love- which allows us negotiate our performance and needs, just like bargaining at a market, leading to a win.
Commitment
A filling is very different from a real relationship, but it's sad how many people confuse the two and expect the wrong thing from the wrong people. The wait and see stage needs to happen before you commit, otherwise you are asking for cruising disappointment.
By the time you commit, you need to be absolutely sure that this person is truly compatible and the differences between you are only minor.
If you keep those 3 essential Cs in mind and develop the required skills, you are almost guaranteed to have a successful relationship.
Be idiots and get married
पता करो शास्त्रों में कहां गलती हुई ?Stay Positive
As an entrepreneur, conquering challenge and failure is essential to the success of your business. You can learn to cultivate that resilience by training your brain to stay positive when times are tough.
Whether you're experiencing the loss of a loved one, unemployment, illness, or other personal troubles that are weighing you down, it's good for your happiness and health to find ways to stay positive.
Trying to be optimistic doesn't mean ignoring the uglier sides of life. It just means focusing on the positive as much as possible-and it gets easier with practice.
"People tend to have a cognitive bias toward their failures, and toward negativity," says Matthew Della Porta, a positive psychologist and organizational consultant. Our brains are more likely to seek out negative information and store it more quickly to memory.
Of course, that bias is not always bad. Acknowledging problems and facing failures can lead us to better solutions. But too often, we go overboard, and beat ourselves up for our failures or let ourselves dwell in the negative.
By consciously increasing our focus on the positive, we start to even the balance. We find a happy medium where we can address failures and challenges without letting them get us down, leaving us more motivated, productive, and likely to succeed.
Try these three tips to help you train your brain to stay positive
1. Express gratitude.
Negative events loom large unless you consciously balance them out. "When you're faced with challenges, it's important to take stock of what's going well," Della Porta says. Thinking about the good in your life can help balance that bias, giving your brain the extra time it needs to register and remember a positive event.
To help your brain store positive events, reflect on what you're grateful for and why at least once a week. Write down your blessings, such as the opportunity to pursue a career you love or a family that supports you. If you prefer a daily habit, then keep a nightly log of good things that happened that day. "Just keep it very short,"
2. Repeat positive affirmations.
As any politician or advertiser knows, the more often you hear a message, the more likely you are to believe it. The same goes for messages about who you are and what you are capable of doing. By repeating positive affirmations with conviction several times each morning, you are training your brain to believe them. "Over time, you'll start to internalize them," Della Porta says. Repeat your affirmations silently if you feel self-conscious.
Choose two to three affirmations that represent your values and goals, such as 'I can handle whatever comes my way,' 'There is plenty of time,' or 'I'm getting better every day.' The repetition will influence the way you interpret negative events, making you more resilient. "Especially if you're predisposed to negative thinking, this can be extremely effective,"
3. Challenge negative thoughts.
Each time a negative thought arises, we choose how to respond. If left to our own devices, we tend to dwell. Our brains home in on negative events so they seem much bigger and more significant than they are. To combat that, start by imagining the thought as separate from yourself, as something you can observe and deconstruct. "Get in the habit of distancing yourself instead of dwelling,"
Next, challenge negative thoughts that are unfairly self-deprecating. For example, if your start up doesn't get the traction you hoped, you might think, "I'm a failure." That's untrue and unproductive. Instead, practice interpreting the same event differently. You might say, I worked really hard but I didn't account for a quirk of the market, so I'm disappointed, but now I'm going to try again with new information. That interpretation is gentler, truer, and more proactive. "At first, [this strategy will] be hard and you'll think it doesn't work," "But over time, it'll become automatic and negative thoughts will be less likely to come up. No one does this naturally; you have to learn and practice."
Whether you're experiencing the loss of a loved one, unemployment, illness, or other personal troubles that are weighing you down, it's good for your happiness and health to find ways to stay positive.
Trying to be optimistic doesn't mean ignoring the uglier sides of life. It just means focusing on the positive as much as possible-and it gets easier with practice.
"People tend to have a cognitive bias toward their failures, and toward negativity," says Matthew Della Porta, a positive psychologist and organizational consultant. Our brains are more likely to seek out negative information and store it more quickly to memory.
Of course, that bias is not always bad. Acknowledging problems and facing failures can lead us to better solutions. But too often, we go overboard, and beat ourselves up for our failures or let ourselves dwell in the negative.
By consciously increasing our focus on the positive, we start to even the balance. We find a happy medium where we can address failures and challenges without letting them get us down, leaving us more motivated, productive, and likely to succeed.
Try these three tips to help you train your brain to stay positive
1. Express gratitude.
Negative events loom large unless you consciously balance them out. "When you're faced with challenges, it's important to take stock of what's going well," Della Porta says. Thinking about the good in your life can help balance that bias, giving your brain the extra time it needs to register and remember a positive event.
To help your brain store positive events, reflect on what you're grateful for and why at least once a week. Write down your blessings, such as the opportunity to pursue a career you love or a family that supports you. If you prefer a daily habit, then keep a nightly log of good things that happened that day. "Just keep it very short,"
2. Repeat positive affirmations.
As any politician or advertiser knows, the more often you hear a message, the more likely you are to believe it. The same goes for messages about who you are and what you are capable of doing. By repeating positive affirmations with conviction several times each morning, you are training your brain to believe them. "Over time, you'll start to internalize them," Della Porta says. Repeat your affirmations silently if you feel self-conscious.
Choose two to three affirmations that represent your values and goals, such as 'I can handle whatever comes my way,' 'There is plenty of time,' or 'I'm getting better every day.' The repetition will influence the way you interpret negative events, making you more resilient. "Especially if you're predisposed to negative thinking, this can be extremely effective,"
3. Challenge negative thoughts.
Each time a negative thought arises, we choose how to respond. If left to our own devices, we tend to dwell. Our brains home in on negative events so they seem much bigger and more significant than they are. To combat that, start by imagining the thought as separate from yourself, as something you can observe and deconstruct. "Get in the habit of distancing yourself instead of dwelling,"
Next, challenge negative thoughts that are unfairly self-deprecating. For example, if your start up doesn't get the traction you hoped, you might think, "I'm a failure." That's untrue and unproductive. Instead, practice interpreting the same event differently. You might say, I worked really hard but I didn't account for a quirk of the market, so I'm disappointed, but now I'm going to try again with new information. That interpretation is gentler, truer, and more proactive. "At first, [this strategy will] be hard and you'll think it doesn't work," "But over time, it'll become automatic and negative thoughts will be less likely to come up. No one does this naturally; you have to learn and practice."
Wednesday 28 January 2015
Funny Video -1
Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters.
The truth is you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”
Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure
Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish it
Three things you cannot recover in life: the WORD after it’s said, the MOMENT after it’s missed and the TIME after it’s gone. Be Careful!”
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters.
The truth is you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”
Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure
Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish it
Three things you cannot recover in life: the WORD after it’s said, the MOMENT after it’s missed and the TIME after it’s gone. Be Careful!”
Mujhe To Bharosa Hai, Phir Kyu Dil Me Ye Gum Jhoom Jate Hai
*Mujhe To Bharosa Hai,
Phir Kyu Dil Me Ye Gum Jhoom Jate Hai,
Mai Kahta Hu Tu Galat Hai,
Par Dil Kahta Hai,
Tujhe Nahi Malum Jin Labo Par Tu Bharosa Karta Hai,
Aksar Unhi Labo Ko Kisi Ke Lab Choom Jate Hai...!!
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
तुम्हारे ज़ज्बे को सलाम देवियों
तुम्हारे ज़ज्बे को सलाम देवियों ..!!! .. . भारतीय महिलाएं काफी लंबे समय से सर्दियों के मौसम में बिना स्वेटर और शॉल के शादियां अटैंड करती आ रही हैं.. . . . मैरिज गार्डन के ओपन लॉन की सर्द हवा में जहां पांच मिनट में ही मर्दों के दांत किटकिटाने लगते हैं, वहां ये वीर बालाएं अपनी महँगी ड्रेस को दिखाने के लिए स्वेटर तक नहीं पहनतीं ! . . . चार घंटे के फंक्शन में उन्हें अपनी तीनों ड्रेसें पहननी होती हैं ... . हर नई ड्रेस पहनने से पहले ये भी कंफर्म करना होता है कि पुरानी वाली सभी ने देखी या नहीं ? . . . सरकार को चाहिये कि 26 जनवरी से हर साल ऐसी वीरांगनाओं का भी सम्मान हो जिन्होंने अदम्य साहस, अटूट इच्छाशक्ति और अद्भुत पराक्रम का परिचय देते हुए भीषण शीत लहर के बीच इस सीज़न सात या उससे अधिक शादियां बिना स्वेटर और शॉल के अटेंड की.
Hey buddy what's up ?
Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters.
The truth is you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”
Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure
Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish it
Three things you cannot recover in life: the WORD after it’s said, the MOMENT after it’s missed and the TIME after it’s gone. Be Careful!”
Tuesday 27 January 2015
Love Yourself
Stop trying to be perfect. Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect. Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is not failure. Just follow all the steps below, and don't let anyone's expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, good height, a good physique or intelligence, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous.
A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strengths. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world.
Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love.
Forgive yourself. Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience.Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again, and take steps to keep it out of your mind.
Do what you love. Make yourself happy. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result, you become happier and more loving.
Luck is not in your hands!
But decision is in your hands"
"Luck can't make your decision, but
Your decision can make luck..."
Mistake Is the First Step of Succsess !!
"Mistake is the first step of Success."
But
The real fact is
"Correction of Mistake is the first step of success."
So Friends, I would say...If you do the mistake does't matter...but take care that the same mistake should not repeat again and again...
Life is like photography.
In life, we develop - as in, mature and grow - from negatives, meaning our mistakes. We learn from what we did wrong and hopefully not make the same mistakes twice.
It means that we all have negatives, or mistakes, in our life, but we develop into beautiful pictures. We learn from our mistakes and better ourselves from our past experiences. It's another way of saying "Learn from your mistakes."
Life is like photography. You develop from the negatives.
I try to go by that quote and apply it to everything that happens. But sometimes, I get restless. It’s funny we can learn to master our emotions in one entity, but not the other. I know I have grown a lot and have learned to love people the way they deserved to be loved. But some people obviously didn’t deserve that love, and it took years for me to figure it out. So I’ve been eliminating people left and right. I used to be the type that would just go all out and say regretful things during arguments. Not anymore. I used to be the type to honk my horn for 6 minutes because someone cut me off. Not anymore. I used to acknowledge negative people online and argue with them all day long. Not anymore. Now…I find myself not even getting riled up anymore. Now…I find myself laughing at the negativity more than engaging into it and allowing it to “fuck up my chi”. Now…I ignore ignorance. Now…I don’t waste time arguing with someone who will never “get it”. Now…I state my claim, express my feelings & move it right along.
It’s funny how nothing forces me to move faster than pain. Restlessness is pain. Someone manipulating you continuously is pain. Disappointment is pain. Betrayal is pain. Making fake efforts is pain. Being lied to is pain. Broken promises is pain. Giving up is pain. When we’re in pain, it’s our duty to do something to make ourselves feel better. And if the old remedy doesn’t work, we gotta try something new, and get rid of the stale medicine. It’s a must. That old school saying “out of sight, out of mind” trick doesn’t help much. All you’re really doing is crumpling up those feelings and hiding it in your bottom drawer. Not exactly “throwing it away”. So one day, unexpected, you fill find that same piece of paper.
Whenever we have a negative encounter, we wonder, “How could they do this to me?” The reason is because you let them. Basic human nature makes us see people and situations the way we want them to be, not the way they are. Then if your feelings are involved, they may crowd out your personal judgment. We allow others to take advantage, manipulate, and in some cases, abuse us, because we don’t want to “believe” what our senses are telling us is true. Don’t stay in denial. If legitimate facts are laid in front of you, don’t be blind to the obvious. You will get hurt in return. We are living products of our past. I think the reason why we allow these things to keep on happening is because whether it was negative or positive, we don’t have that natural feeling of beauty anymore. The environment of our childhood, teen years and young adult lives sets a path for our future. Our past is a part of our today. We carry it in our hearts and take heed to the next step considering what we been through. We do what was done to us because during our years of growing up we modeled what we saw, heard and experienced. With a great deal of denial, we repeat the physical, emotional and mental patterns set by our families, relationships and friends. Or, we overcompensate for what was missing during or years of growing up. It’s hard to convince one another to just “get over it” when you know that you haven’t gotten over a few things yourself. Point is, just be glad that you still have life. Feel beautiful for once. Or how about forever? Times when I feel like just throwing my hands up in the air and say “I give up. I can’t go any further”… I take a look at all the things I do have, embrace those blessings and smoothly get over it. I relive the good memories of my past, and create lessons to learn from the mistakes I’ve made. Explore my feelings, unpack the guilt and free myself from the baggage I picked up moments before. Yes, you’re gonna feel bitter. Yes, you’re gonna feel unloved. Yes, you’re gonna feel like shit. But once you take a glance at your accomplishments, creations & the strength within…you will start to feel beautiful again. Don’t waste those limited moments of your life harping on the hideous aspects you’ve made it through. You’re here right now. Get a mirror, smile and commence being what you are.
Too many times we cut ourselves down to fit into a situation. Fixing ourselves to stay where we are is the very source of our pain. I refuse to allow myself to live with a constant, reoccurring ache because technically, it means I’m not getting the message. Eventually, you will reach a point where you won’t tolerate it anymore. That’s when it’s going to be the easiest to simply walk away and never look back. The only way you will successfully end it all is to stand up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe in. Make sure you don’t become an emotional pushover. More than likely, your pain is caused by you compromising yourself, to suit others or a particular situation. Catering to someone’s flaws, pride or insensitivity, instead of focusing on yourself and figuring out why you’re putting up with it in the first place. Dig deep within. You know why. You’re just afraid to admit it. Or you’re afraid to let go. Or just flat out being afraid to speak your mind to that person because they blow everything out of proportion just to fault you, when all you’re doing is trying to help.
Things Men do that Upset Women..
Real Happiness
What do I mean by "fill up on happiness"? I mean choose to find happiness -- not negativity, gossip, mind-numbing TV shows, or empty calories -- in the world around you. The following tips, techniques, and happiness quotes should get you started.
Take Action: Take Heart
"Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold, the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul."
Focus on the chase, the process, the journey -- not the end result! At the end of the day, happiness is not about the big house, the money, or the material goods. The thrill is in the satisfaction of pushing our envelope and working hard. Happiness lives in the meaning and purpose we find in our lives. Melt into the process. Enjoy the ride. Happiness guaranteed!
Celebrate Daily
"There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle."
Celebrate a creative idea, your brilliance, your authentic style, your family, and/or your clean closets! Celebrate anything and everything that brightens your heart. If you find one thing to celebrate every day, your mind will soon automatically search for things to celebrate. Imagine that...your mind on automatic pilot, searching for happy things to celebrate.
Open Your Heart to Forgiveness
"Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting."
One needs to expend an awful lot of energy to hold onto anger and resentment. And at the end of the day, who is it hurting? Certainly not the people to whom you are directing your bitterness and hostility. Those negative feelings are swirling through your own psyche and body. So let them go and enjoy a path toward feeling lighter, freer, and happier. In the end, you could consider forgiveness the best kind of selfish act, as it benefits you as much as anyone else.
Give Yourself Credit
"The truest greatness lies in being kind, the truest wisdom in a happy mind."
Rather than focusing on what you haven't achieved (and believe me, we all could create quite the list), why not focus on what you have accomplished and give yourself credit where credit is due? No holds barred. No thoughts that negate your triumphs or happy moments.
Every New Day Is the Best Day of Your Life !
Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.
This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind... let it be something good.
Importance of Self confidence !
“Don’t
wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There
will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions.
So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow
stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more
self-confident and more and more successful.” - See more at:
http://liveboldandbloom.com/01/self-confidence/25-self-confidence-quotes#sthash.WJbtX8Wg.dpuf
It is only necessary to have courage, for strength without self-confidence is useless.“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
Self confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. how can anyone see how awesome you are if you can’t see it yourself ?
Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?
Improving your self-image, like improving any skill, takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption; it's self-respect.
People who are self-confident are those who acknowledge their capacity to do something and then proceed to do these things. They do not rely on the approval of other people in order to affirm their existence. It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential to do something, and the guts to do it no matter what others may say.
People who are self-confident take advantage of opportunities that come their way. Self-confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it.
To be successful in the business of insurance and risk management, you must be confident. Confident in your approach. Confident in your communication skills. Confident in your team. Confident in your technical know-how. Confident in the manner in which you deliver your services. And, confident in the face of rejection.
Learning how to be confident is the single most important life skill you will ever acquire. It impacts your happiness, success and well-being. All other desirable qualities use confidence as the foundation.
No one is born with confidence. People begin to develop confidence during the growing-up process.
The role of parents is essential. Parents who are critical of their children without acknowledging their strengths unknowingly damage the development of self-confidence. On the other hand, parents who give support and encourage children to move forward will likely rear self-confident children.
Why is self-esteem important?
Every individual needs to have self-esteem, quite simply because it affects every aspect of one’s life. Having a good self-esteem is essential, because:
It helps you feel good about yourself and everything you do.
It translates into belief in yourself, giving you the courage to try new things.
It allows you to respect and honor yourself, even when you make mistakes. And when you respect yourself, others will respect you too.
When you have a good self-esteem, you will know that you’re smart enough to make your own decisions.
When you honor yourself, you will make choices that nourish your mind and body.
You will value your safety, your feelings and health. Therefore, you will choose to make healthier eating choices, exercising, or taking time off to do something you like (without feeling guilty about not doing something for somebody else).
All this does not mean that a person with good self-esteem discounts others, but that -- a person with a good self-esteem values oneself and ensures that his/her feelings or needs are not discounted.
It is essential that you understand that confidence is under your control. It is not controlled by someone else.
Self-confidence is about balance. At one end of the spectrum are people with low self-confidence. At the other extreme, there are people who are over-confident and who often take too much risk, stretch themselves beyond their capabilities and eventually run into road blocks.
Over-confidence is having unmerited confidence—believing that something or someone is capable when they are not. On the other end of the spectrum, “choking” refers to losing confidence, especially self-confidence, just at the moment when it is needed most and doing poorly as a result.
Confident people risk security and comfort to achieve higher levels of growth and independence. They have the ability to see obstacles as opportunities. Each day begins and ends with a sense of clarity, simplicity and a purpose. Let’s study the actions of individuals with both high and low self-confidence.
Unfortunately, people with low self-confidence get caught in a vicious cycle. Their lack of confidence makes it difficult to be successful. And, their inability to experience success brings on negativity. People with low self-confidence live their days with anxiety, confusion and fatigue. Their self-image is impaired by their inability to live with a sense of purpose and passion.
Highly self-confident people feel in control. They have the ability to shut out distractions, establish priorities, make sound judgments, create strategies and carry them out effectively. They make good use of their strengths and resources. Most important, self-confident individuals possess an ability to create value for themselves and those around them.
In the complex and turbulent world of insurance and risk management, it is easy to lose confidence in one’s ability to control the outcome of his or her actions. This lack of perceived control leads to indecision and/or impulsive actions. As a result, necessary actions are avoided, delayed or, when acted upon, are often poorly carried out.
Your self-confidence is at its highest peak when you have:
1. Unique Process. A differentiated strategy in the marketplace. A “competitive” advantage.
2. Balance. The ability to observe situations clearly so not to be over- or under-confident.
3. The ability to see Obstacles as Opportunities.
4. Accomplishments. The recognition and celebration of your successes.
5. Strengths. Focus on what you do best. Consider your unique attributes and abilities.
6. Relationships. Positive relationships with others foster a sense of self-worth that contributes to your self-image.
7. Set Goals. A confident person creates visions and sets goals. Visions will allow you to see yourself at some point in the future, while goals offer a road map to reach these visions. Goals enhance your confidence because you can measure yourself against benchmarks.
Knowing how to be confident is a matter of strategy. Start by acknowledging your abilities and talents, avoid situations that discourage you from gaining confidence and seek opportunities to enhance your self-esteem. Success breeds confidence. Confidence breeds success.
Confidence…your most important life skill
Funny SMS in Hindi
""दिल्ली में इतना कोहरा है कि एक चोर ने महिला समझ के कुत्ते की चेन खींच ली ! कुत्ता स्वस्थ हैं चोर अस्पताल में भर्ती हैं !
मछली जल कि रानी है -:- इसका नया वर्जन .. पत्नी घर की रानी है , करती अपनी मनमानी है , काम बताओ तो चिढ़ जाएगी , शौपिंग कराओ तो खिल जाती चूहा पार्टी में 4 पैग लगाकर मस्त था। बिल्ली बोली: आज पार्टी ना होती तो मैं तुझे खा जाती। चूहा: चली जा साली, वर्ना लोग कहेंगे नशे में औरत पे हाथ उठा दिया।
मोहब्बत हो जाये या मच्छर काटे अंजाम एक ही होता है; क्या? रात को नींद नहीं आती।
बूढ़ी महिला: यमराज जी, मुझे वक़्त से पहले क्यों उठा लिया? यमराज: बुढ़िया दिमाग मत चाट, मार्च में क्लोजिंग (closing) थी, टारगेट पूरा करना था।
हरयाणवी जाट का बच्चा साइकिल चलाते-चलाते एक लड़की से टकरा गया। लड़की बोली: घंटी नहीं मार सकता क्या? जाट: री छोरी, बावली है के? पूरी साइकिल मार दी इब घंटी के अलग ते मारुं के? पुलिस (चोर से): वादा करो आगे से जेब नहीं काटोगे। चोर बोला,"मैं वादा करता हूँ, अब आगे से नहीं पीछे से जेब काटूंगा।" पठान ने मछली पकड़ी और घर आया तो देखा: ना गैस, ना आटा, ना बिजली और ना तेल। पठान वापस मछली को नदी में फेक आया। मछली चिल्लाई,"कांग्रेस पार्टी जिंदाबाद, डॉक्टर: आपके लिए दो ख़बरें हैं एक अच्छी और एक बुरी। मरीज: अच्छी वाली खबर क्या है? डॉक्टर: आपके मरने में सिर्फ 24 घंटे बाकी हैं। मरीज (आश्चर्य से) बोला: क्या! और बुरी खबर? डॉक्टर: मैं आपको यह बात कल बताना भूल. Tha बच्चा: दूध पीने से रंग गोरा होता है? डॉक्टर: हां, होता है। बच्चा: झूठ, फिर भैंस का बच्चा काला क्यों होता है? डॉक्टर: कैसे आना हुआ? मरीज: डॉक्टर साहब, तबीयत ठीक नहीं है, लीवर में दर्द हो रहा है। डॉक्टर: दारु पीते हो? मरीज: हाँ, पर छोटा पैग ही बनाना। डॉक्टर: आपके तीन दांत कैसे टूट गए? मरीज: पत्नी ने कड़क रोटी बनाई थी। डॉक्टर: तो खाने से मना कर देते। मरीज: वही तो किया था। खुद को करो कंजूस इतना; कि हर SMS भेजने से पहले; सर्विस सेंटर वाले खुद कॉल करके पूछें; . एक बच्चा पैदा होते ही नर्स से बोला: मोबाइल है क्या? नर्स: करेगा क्या? बच्चा: कुछ नहीं भगवान् को कॉल करनी है कि मैं पहुँच गया हूँ। डॉक्टर मरीज़ से बोला,"अगर तुम मेरी दवा से ठीक हो गए तो मुझे क्या इनाम दोगे?" मरीज़: मैं कब्र खोदता हूँ, आपकी कब्र फ्री खोद दूंगा। महिला डॉक्टर: तुम रोज़ सुबह क्लीनिक के बाहर खड़े होकर औरतों को क्यों घूरते हो? आदमी: जी आप ने ही लिखा है, "औरतों को देखने का समय सुबह 9 बजे से 11 बजे तक।"
Monday 26 January 2015
Discipline goes in hand with successin every sphere of life.
Success requires hard work and self-discipline. With self-discipline, anyone gain self-confidence and achieve success
If you were to ask the most successful people their secret of success, they will tell you that success requires one thing and that is- self discipline.
Discipline is your ultimate tool for personal empowerment. It means taking control and getting your life in order. You need to commit to doing this, now, and honor that commitment to yourself. Life is too short to put it off any longer.
Discipline goes in hand with success in every sphere of life. Throughout history, we find that self-discipline has been the common denominator for all those who achieved anything worthwhile and meaningful in life.
The reason why so many people fail to achieve their goals and end up living mediocre lives is their lack of self-discipline. No matter how gifted or talented you may be, to experience the sweet taste of success you need to master the art of self-discipline. Discipline is what Roy Smith called “the defining fire” by which talent becomes ability.
People who have achieved stupendous levels of success started at the bottom and worked their way up by disciplining themselves for success.
The journey of success is not easy. There will always be challenges to face, difficulties to tackle and obstacles to overcome. It takes mental strength and consistency to attain what you desire and self-discipline helps you to master just that. Self-discipline is, as popularly called, ‘the bridge’ between goals and accomplishments.
Contrary to what most people think, self-discipline is not about denying yourself or punishing yourself. It is about training your mind to go through with what you start doing. As Elbert Hubbard has expressed- it is the ability to ‘make yourself do’ what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.
All great achievements require a good amount of hard work and discipline. And it’s not the work that is hard, it is the discipline. Self-discipline is a valuable attribute to have, yet difficult to obtain. Jim Rohn once said, and very rightly, “We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”
Self-discipline, however, is not a spectator sport. You need to actively develop it by dismissing negative thoughts. Free yourself of self-limiting beliefs and focus on your goals. This requires constant efforts and regular practice but once developed surely pays rich dividends.
The age old saying of “discipline is the key to success” holds true even today. Self- discipline is the backbone of a successful and productive life- without discipline life is like ‘a ship without a rudder.’
With the practice of self-discipline, you can create breakthrough results in your life and achieve great success. Master self-discipline if you want to reach your full potential and design the life you really desire.
No stream or gas drives anything until it is confined.
No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated, disciplined.
Take Responsibility For Your Life !
Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Never excuse yourself.
Taking responsibility for your life is great. But that is also all that you have control over. You can’t control the results of your actions. You can’t control how someone reacts to what you say or what you do.
It’s important to know where your limits are. Otherwise you’ll create a lot unnecessary suffering for yourself and waste energy and focus by taking responsibility for what you can’t and never really could control.
You are totally responsible for your life. This is the foundation principle you must embrace if you plan for happiness and success in life and work. I coach a young woman currently, a manager in a small company.
I am struck, every time we meet, by her failure to take responsibility for what is happening in her work and life. Everything is someone else’s fault. Every problem is explained away with reasons about why she can’t affect the situation or the outcome.
People who take complete responsibility for their lives experience joy and control of circumstances. They are able to make choices because they understand that they are responsible for their choices.
Indeed, even when events that are not under your control, go awry, you can, at least, determine how you will react to the event. You can make an event a disaster or you can use it as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to cherish your faith, to hold loved ones close.
So how do you take responsibility?
Well, it’s simply choice that you have to make.
A powerful way to keep myself in line. Though it doesn’t always work. Doing the right thing in every situation is hard to do and also hard to always keep in mind. So don’t aim for perfection. Just try to be as good a person as you can be right now.
When you know those very important reasons above it becomes a lot easier to stick with taking responsibility. And to not rationalize to yourself that you didn’t really have to take responsibility in various situations. That doesn’t mean that I beat myself up endlessly about it. I just observe that I have hurt myself and my life. And that doesn’t feel good. And so I become less prone to repeat the same mistake.
Also, two habits that I think are essential to be able to do the right and often hard thing and take personal responsibility are the ones I wrote about a few weeks ago: increasing your energy levels and learning to be present.
Without the extra energy and the presence it becomes more difficult to take action and to not create extra resistance and negativity within yourself.
Inspirational life Quotes!
"Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish it"
"In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure"
"Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else."
"The truth is you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed "
"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated"
" Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."
"Life is like photography. You need the negatives to develop"
We hope you enjoyed these inspirational life quotes today. Please don’t forget to share these with your friends, family and followers to brighten their day and inspire them to live a better life.
Love is a connection.
Awesome picture floating around the net......
Love is a word which refers to a variety of different emotional states, feelings or attitudes which range from those of simple personal pleasures or desires to those characterizing interpersonal affection and many forms of profound kindness, compassion, and benevolent concern for the good of others.
Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.
Love is an echo in the feelings of a unity subsisting between two persons which is founded both on likeness and on complementary differences. Without the likeness there would be no attraction; without the challenge of the complementary differences there could not be the closer interweaving and the inextinguishable mutual interest which is the characteristic of all deeper relationships.
love is not what we think it is. It is not a long-lasting, continually present emotion that sustains a marriage; it is not the yearning and passion that characterizes young love; and it is not the blood-tie of kinship.
Love is a connection, characterized by a flood of positive emotions, which you share with another person—any other person—whom you happen to connect with in the course of your day. You can experience these micro-moments with your romantic partner, child, or close friend. But you can also fall in love, however momentarily, with less likely candidates, like a stranger on the street, a colleague at work, or an attendant at a grocery store.
"Thinking of love purely as commitment that you share with one special person—as it appears most on earth do—surely limits the health and happiness you derive" from love.
"My conception of love," she tells me, "gives hope to people who are single or divorced or widowed this Valentine's Day to find smaller ways to experience love."
You have to physically be with the person to experience the micro-moment. For example, if you and your significant other are not physically together—if you are reading this at work alone in your office—then you two are not in love. You may feel connected or bonded to your partner—you may long to be in his company—but your body is completely loveless.
To understand why, it's important to see how love works biologically. Like all emotions, love has a biochemical and physiological component. But unlike some of the other positive emotions, like joy or happiness, love cannot be kindled individually—it only exists in the physical connection between two people. Specifically, there are three players in the biological love system—mirror neurons tone. Each involves connection and each contributes to those micro-moment of positivity resonance that Fredrickson calls love.
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